Saturday, January 12, 2008

About finding out

Now that I've had a few days to get my mind around the idea of another little girl! in our family, I've begun to fully embrace the sweetness and beauty her presence will bring to our lives. But I have to say (because I'm all about keeping it real here) that when we first found out? I sort of felt gut punched. A girl. But we already have two of those! I'll admit now that I had been secretly (or maybe not so secretly) hoping for another little boy, a baby of the rough and tumble sort to be a playmate and companion to Dylan.

His own disappointment at the news of another sister was clearly visible on his sad, stoic face, and I remembered the bitter tears of resentment I cried when my own little brother was born when I was six. I had been so hoping for a sister! It wasn't fair! I didn't need another brother! But God, in His infinite wisdom, knew far better than me what I actually needed, and the baby boy I bewailed all those years ago grew with time into a fine young man who is now the godfather of my own sweet son. (And really, he was a much better friend to me than any sister would have been.)

Now again, God has proved His goodness in the miracle of this small, sweet girl, a baby already much loved by her sisters and brother and mommy and daddy. I can't imagine now that I ever wanted another boy! Three little girls! What a joy and a blessing! My heart smiles to imagine them all together as they grow older.

And my little man? I'm not so much worried about him anymore. He's got a heart so big that it's already recovered and embraced the reality of another little sister. And far from having the presence of other boys in his life, he is surrounded by strong, positive male influences in the forms of his daddy, his grandpa, his uncles, his priests, his CCD teacher...and playmates including his cousins, his friends from CCD, the nice home schooled boy down the street, the ever so polite and imaginative son of my friend, and, as he grows, I know there will be many more. And tell me: if this picture he drew yesterday is credible evidence, wouldn't you agree that he is definitely a boy quite secure in his status as reigning knight in this household? :)


Michelle said...

I really really really thought that my little Mary was a boy. Poor Peter surrounded by sisters! I was disappointed for a minute, then concluded: better God than me to decide genders! He knows better than I what we need! I thoroughly enjoy her, and I'm sure your family will be more than happy to love another girl too.

Celeste said...

I know with Michael, I deep down didn't really care whether it was a boy or a girl, but I remember feeling how nice it would be to have a little girl for Nicole. But now I see her love on little Michael and enjoy him so much! God truly has a perfect plan for each child. We have noticed that there is a purpose for the gender and the order of each child. I look forward to seeing how it all plays out over the years. I think Dylan will do a magnificent job protecting and defending his three little sisters. No lousy boyfriends getting by him! :)) On a side note my older sisters were terribly disappointed to find out that my parents "good news" one evening was a new baby on the way (me) and not a puppy!

Much love to you!

Mrs Marcos said...

Dylan's drawing skills continue to amaze me! He is quite the artist!! Oh, and congrats on the baby girl...can't wait to "meet" her!

Anonymous said...

Three little girls sound like so much fun! Congratulations!

Jamie said...

First of all, congratulations!

We also have boy first (age 7) then 3 girls. When my son found out about the 2nd girl, he was sad, and when I went to hug and reassure him, he cried and said "I only have enough kisses for you and Katherine!" After explaining God will give him more kisses for another girl, he was much better!!!

I do wish we could get our boys together, my son also LOVES everything Star Wars and BOY!!

Jill said...

Your post has made me ponder my own little family. (The opposite of your's!) Instead of sharing all of my thoughts in the comment box, I blogged about it!

I love the drawing. Dylan is so talented!!

Jen said...

Congratulations on welcoming another little girl! I had mixed feelings when we found out our third child was a girl. But, God in His wisdom brought the boy later, in our little David. Three little girls. All I can think of is three shopping buddies!

Sherri said...

Wow...he drew that?!?
I have a 12 yo girl and two boys..9& 10.
I will always and forever feel guilty that Madison doesn't have a sister. That's something that only I could have given her and I didn't. Yes, I'm glad the boys have each other, but I know that boys don't need brothers as much as girls need sisters. A lot of people may not agree with that, but it is how I feel. I don't regret that Carter, our youngest, was a boy because I wouldn't trade him for anything, but I still feel so sad for Madison that she doesn't have a sister. I guess as mothers, we will always feel like we have let someone down.
I love my family the way it is..woudn't change a thing...unless I could add one more little girl for way to be certain of that, though.

Jill said...

Oh, Melissa. Of course the thought of 'arranged marriages' has crossed my mind as well! ;) You just keep having those lovely ladies and I'll keep providing the strapping young gentlemen. If Celeste's little Nicole doesn't nab Dylan first, I'm sure Aslynn would love to have him. She told me she desires nothing more (at the ripe old age of almost five) to be married...and have GIRL babies. :)

Tee said...

You are so lucky. I'd love to have a whole house full of kids! I have only been blessed with one, and thank God for her, but sometimes I really wish I had a couple more. Your family is beautiful, congratulations on the new baby girl on the way!